Thread: Erectile Dysfunction

Jeez you can tell you guys are young and in new relationships...I can't remember the last time I even thought of sex four times a day. I feel so old...

Hi All,

I wanted to pose one question, in relation to taking Viagra or Ciliias, you mention that this is prescribed to help you get back on track, does it then end the need for the medication?

I too have the same problem and am having massive amounts of anxiety over it. I recognise that I have had anxiety problems for a while that I have done nothing about thinking that I can deal with it all myself and its all come crashing down in a big heap for me.

My wife lost the baby she was carrying three months ago and we have been through the wringer ever since as she has had two operations and there are financial problems as a result.

We are trying for another baby and I have placed myself under alot of pressure due to the high standards that I always put myself under, the outcome was that last Sunday I had my first introduction in my late 30's to what erectile dysfunction is really all about and as mentioned in the OP aside from the day that I discovered my wife had lost the baby is one of the most dehabilitating things that has ever happened to me!

I have since been along to the Dr and they have taken blood tests (today) and I have been given a script for Viagra, the other medication was also offered but he felt the V would do the job. I have not had it filled as yet because I have a major stomach ache from all the worry that I have put myself through. I am trying to work on the anxiety issues and am then hoping things will get better normally, yet if they dont then I do plan to get the script filled and give it a go! - I was incredibly encouraged to hear that the Ciallias worked for another poster in here and if that is the outcome then that would be more than fantastic!

I have been diagnosed with Depression, the Dr does not want to medicate at this stage because the meds may cause some issue connected with the current problem, yet I am to see him again next week and it will be discussed again. Essentially he wants me to lose weight - am 178cm and 100kg, so need to lose 15kg at least. Currently I have lost my appetite so I am trying to use that as a positive towards losing the weight.

Thanks for providing this forum and a place where I can talk about an issue that is upsetting and embarrassing me, it really is appreciated, as well as any advice anyone has!

Originally Posted by Ben W

Hi All,

I wanted to pose one question, in relation to taking Viagra or Ciliias, you mention that this is prescribed to help you get back on track, does it then end the need for the medication?

I too have the same problem and am having massive amounts of anxiety over it. I recognise that I have had anxiety problems for a while that I have done nothing about thinking that I can deal with it all myself and its all come crashing down in a big heap for me.

My wife lost the baby she was carrying three months ago and we have been through the wringer ever since as she has had two operations and there are financial problems as a result.

We are trying for another baby and I have placed myself under alot of pressure due to the high standards that I always put myself under, the outcome was that last Sunday I had my first introduction in my late 30's to what erectile dysfunction is really all about and as mentioned in the OP aside from the day that I discovered my wife had lost the baby is one of the most dehabilitating things that has ever happened to me!

I have since been along to the Dr and they have taken blood tests (today) and I have been given a script for Viagra, the other medication was also offered but he felt the V would do the job. I have not had it filled as yet because I have a major stomach ache from all the worry that I have put myself through. I am trying to work on the anxiety issues and am then hoping things will get better normally, yet if they dont then I do plan to get the script filled and give it a go! - I was incredibly encouraged to hear that the Ciallias worked for another poster in here and if that is the outcome then that would be more than fantastic!

I have been diagnosed with Depression, the Dr does not want to medicate at this stage because the meds may cause some issue connected with the current problem, yet I am to see him again next week and it will be discussed again. Essentially he wants me to lose weight - am 178cm and 100kg, so need to lose 15kg at least. Currently I have lost my appetite so I am trying to use that as a positive towards losing the weight.

Thanks for providing this forum and a place where I can talk about an issue that is upsetting and embarrassing me, it really is appreciated, as well as any advice anyone has!

im sorry to hear about the bad news,

honestly your situation sounds more like a mental thing and the viagra is not what should be used in this case,it might benefit for the short period but long term you need to first see whats the story with your blood test,wait and see how that comes back,if all comes back fine then it could be stress/depression related,

ive had a few mates in the past that had similar issues and have tried viagra and that also wouldnt really help and there blood tests came back fine,once they got things off there mind things started changing and they were back to normal,

Originally Posted by Ben W

Hi All,

I wanted to pose one question, in relation to taking Viagra or Ciliias, you mention that this is prescribed to help you get back on track, does it then end the need for the medication?

I too have the same problem and am having massive amounts of anxiety over it. I recognise that I have had anxiety problems for a while that I have done nothing about thinking that I can deal with it all myself and its all come crashing down in a big heap for me.

My wife lost the baby she was carrying three months ago and we have been through the wringer ever since as she has had two operations and there are financial problems as a result.

We are trying for another baby and I have placed myself under alot of pressure due to the high standards that I always put myself under, the outcome was that last Sunday I had my first introduction in my late 30's to what erectile dysfunction is really all about and as mentioned in the OP aside from the day that I discovered my wife had lost the baby is one of the most dehabilitating things that has ever happened to me!

I have since been along to the Dr and they have taken blood tests (today) and I have been given a script for Viagra, the other medication was also offered but he felt the V would do the job. I have not had it filled as yet because I have a major stomach ache from all the worry that I have put myself through. I am trying to work on the anxiety issues and am then hoping things will get better normally, yet if they dont then I do plan to get the script filled and give it a go! - I was incredibly encouraged to hear that the Ciallias worked for another poster in here and if that is the outcome then that would be more than fantastic!

I have been diagnosed with Depression, the Dr does not want to medicate at this stage because the meds may cause some issue connected with the current problem, yet I am to see him again next week and it will be discussed again. Essentially he wants me to lose weight - am 178cm and 100kg, so need to lose 15kg at least. Currently I have lost my appetite so I am trying to use that as a positive towards losing the weight.

Thanks for providing this forum and a place where I can talk about an issue that is upsetting and embarrassing me, it really is appreciated, as well as any advice anyone has!

Mate I empathise with you totally. I had the same issues after we lost our first 3 babies. The pressure was enormous, depression unbearable....... one thing is for sure, drugs are NOT the answer.

Losing a child is beyond description. You need to take a breath here and let life settle a little. You have a number of issues on your plate; work your way through them. Rushing in to have another try at a baby may not be the best course of action.

Lose the weight, get your life back in balance, sort out the financial problems, and the depression will most likely lift on its own and you'll be in much better shape to start a family.

Best of luck with it. As I said, I've been where you are.

Thanks guys your responses are very much appreciated!

I felt a little better yesterday then not so great today again, I am on holidays from work soon and am hoping the change of routine will do me some good.

My thinking was that if I could overcome the anxiety that I could overcome the problem, yet it is a vicious circle because I feel the bulk of the current anxiety issue is caused by the erectile disfunction. My thoughts are that perhaps it is better to try the V and see if I can at least get some relief and feel like myself again even if its for a few hours. My Dr suggests that many people only ever need the one tablet and they can get back on track fairly quickly. I dont get the results from the tests until next week, so its pressure all round in that area. My wife is the most supportive person I could ever have in my life, yet I just feel so much like I have let her down, its really beating me up and I am struggling not to continually think about the problem which clearly makes it much worse than what it is!

That said however I am going to take whatever action is neccessary to solve any anxiety problems that I have and I appreciate the advice given here and will be following up on it!

Thanks again!

Sorry to hear about you losing the baby. My wife and I had 2 miscarriages in between having our 2 girls. That was 6 years ago.

My wife is a nurse and from what she has told me is that viagra is only good for "that night" where as ciallias will last you the course of a couple of days. So if the V doesn't help when you take it, or something else happens, with C you still have a few days up your sleeve, so to speak.

I'm in my mid to late 30's as well and felt as though I was having "performance issues", spoke to my doctor and he told me it was all in my head.

You guys would be surprised with just how frequent this problem is among guys... I've had that problem numerous times and i've found its usually the girls insecurites that spark it.

My girlfriends have have generally had confidence issues with there bodys because of the fact that are dating a bodybuilder. Its stupid I know, they can be absolute stunners and still think they look like shit around you. This then leads them to covering there bodies up or turning off the lights during sex and this is where our problem starts...

I cant tell you why it happens and maybe its just me but i find when i cant see whats going to get me off i dont get off... the solution, talk to your girl tell her how atractive she is, let her know that seeing her body will make you cum. now we all no girls are impossible and it'll take forever to drum it into them but it is definitly worth the effort!!

Interesting turn of events, I arrived home to a letter from my doctor stating that my blood test showed a high blood sugar level after fasting and he wants me to be re-tested ASAP. I have looked into it and it turns out that ED is often something that happens to people that either have Diabetes or have Pre-Diabetes.

I spoke to the Pharmasist today and they reassured me that ED is actually quite common with people that have high blood sugar and that more often than not when the levels return to normal that it deals with itself.

As posted before I am at least 18kg overweight going to the very highest mark on the health range and my weight is considered Obese for my height, so clearly having a gym membership was and is one of the best investments for dealing with the problem, The reason I got the membership was because I was overweight. In the year that I have been there I have been off and on going and have lost 4kg. Yet with this current situation as the motivator I am quite certain that will change! Just the prospect that I may have found the answer to the problem has lifted my spirits quite alot and I feel like I have gotten back on track so to speak so thanks again, it really is much appreciated!

Im sorry Ben. You've had a horrible time but it seems like you are feeling more positive. Remember, that you and your wife are in this together and shes probably feeling less than sexy too. Work on this issue as a team and that alone will help you both.

It does seem to be a fairly common problem but one aspect of it seems to be the high standards some of you are putting on yourselves. And maybe thinking that women won't understand? Most women are understanding and are happy with compromise ;). Those that arent understanding are possibly not worth your time anyway.