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Hmmm... no sex no touch no talk ?
You sure your not married?
Hmmm... no sex no touch no talk ?
You sure your not married?
^^You know it's funny how men generalise like that but I couldn't imagine being in a relationship like that. I'm a very tactile person so I like to touch and be touched. If a man switched off his affection for me I'd be devistated. I'm not talking just sex but any physical touch.
Same Sor. Totally the same.
Unfortunately, sometimes love just isn't enough. I stayed with someone far too long simply because we still loved each other. The last 12 months of that relationship was the worst of my life, and has really scarred me.Originally Posted by take2
hahahaha....how to bring a light comment to a heavy subject. I'm surprised someone hasnt said it before!
Such a tough situation to be in man, I'm a young bloke in my mid 20's there's nothing I could tell you that would help your cause.
I feel sorry for you and wish things work out between you.
All the best man.
LOL man, comments like this really give us young blokes a lot to aspire toward....
$HARIF the L337
lol ... it was a joke but it does have a serious side and its not so much a bitch about women ..it is just the way it seems to work.
.. alot of guys find when they get married the sex that was so frequent, sexy and passionate.... suddenly becomes a chore for her.
However ....The excitment peaks again every so often when things are goin well for her or theres something new and exciting happening in your lives that she has a keen interest in.
What about when it's the other way around and the bloke can't keep up?
^^ was that a serious post Razz?
What SOMETIMES happens Bris is that when couples assume old fashioned traditional roles within marriage as well as modern day roles women (mostly) get tired. This means that often women work full time AND look after the housekeeping (finances and housework and cooking). When kids come along some women quit work and that can be really isolating as well as tedious on a day to day basis.
So husband comes home from work. Tired from his day but he got to talk about grown up things and use his brain other than finding new ways to make playdough or new ways to get playdough out of carpet. He comes home and might have dinner waiting for him. He puts his feet up or plays with his kids (novelty after working all day). Later that night (after wife has cleaned up, put kids to bed etc) husband wants a bit of nooky. Wife just wants sleep.
I find women often shoot themselves in the foot with this. Most of us are fairly nurturing by nature and we nurture our partners in the early days too. We honestly don't mind doing all the washing and cooking. It gets old though and women can resent it because it becomes a chore but not too many go about actively changing the situation. Some do and the relationship folds or it gets a stack better. Men need to realise that womens libido is more than just a sex organ (or that women's biggest sex organ is their brain) and women need to realise that men aren't mind readers.
There are other reasons. Age and libido. Men in their 20s are often firing on all guns. Women in their 30s and 40s are often firing on all guns. Thats not to say that young fellas can have zero libido and women in their 30s/40s have zero libido either of course.
Massive generalisation but its really really common even in this day and age.
Research somewhere that reports that married women dont live as long as their single peers. Married men live alot longer than their single peers. Im sure there could be other factors too though.
sor careful cause they will say its the womans fault a man cant keep it up. And that its the womans fault that their man isn't turning them on. Both bullshit.
LOL Rusha... Thats a very specific 'sometimes' generalisation...
*ducks for cover...*
lol Gav. Its pretty textbook actually which means there will always be exceptions to it all. See it all the time with friends but its also in academic journals (division of labour etc etc etc).
I got to do the whole traditional roles in reverse for a short while. Was interesting but it kinda sucked.
I think you'll find it happens less and less these days....
Not as much as you think Gav. I think women speak up more and i think men might do more but its still prevalent.
(we pretty much said the same thing btw).
Can you please give me the number of a girl like this? I'd be happy to try.
In seriousness, lack of desire, low libido is a serious issue. I personally don't believe to have no interest in sex means you have either a physical or mental problem. I just think that like in nature, men have the urge to mate, and women are just not interested alot of the time. Hahahaha.
With regards to women who have children. I was doing some reading recently on a womans forum with 45,000 Australian users. Seems to be incredibly common and the women there didn't have a problem expressing how they felt about it. Eg.
"Husband has bugger all chance ATM, and has been rejected the last couple of times he tried."
"To be honest I just have not been interested in having sex with my husband. Well that isn't true, I like the idea and the times we have done it but I just cannot be bothered."
While I admit men can be pretty insensitive when it comes to these issues, i've done enough reading on this forum with my wife to know that women also see sex as a JOB even when they are having sex.
So guys, just 'cause you're getting laid doesn't mean she's enjoying it. Surpising to see what some of these ladies are saying behind their husbands back lol.
Obviously things like pregnancy, post birth, the pill, breastfeeding et cetera all have an effect on libido... but there are still plenty of women, who just don't have a sex drive.... with no explaination... as if it should be fixed... ? Everyone is different.
I'm sorry Rusha if any of this sounds insensitive to women, it's not my intention but just wanted to share. I have experienced this type of issue before and it is a really touchy subject. If you're not careful it can definitely put a strain on a relationship. When sex WAS there, and WAS enjoyable, and dissapears it can be very frustrating.
Funnily enough i was reading on the same forum about men and porn, one women was talking about how her husband started trying different positions in the bedroom and this was WRONG... *GASP* and it's all due to that evil evil porn.
To be fair to the women, if you have a two minute wonder husband who's motto is "whip it in, whip it out, wipe it" then no suprises why there's a lack of action in the bedroom. ;-)
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